Aletha Solter at age ten. She states she had a very happy childhood.
Santa Barbara, California, United States
Aletha Solter with her son, Nicky, in 1977, before she began writing books.
Aletha Solter with her husband, Ken, and their two children: Sarah (age 1) and Nicky (age 6) This photo was taken in 1983, a year before The Aware Baby was first published.
Aletha Solter's family in 1994.
Aletha Solter with both of her grandchildren in July 2007.
Santa Barbara, California, United States
Aletha Solter with her grandchildren on the beach in Santa Barbara (California) in August 2011.
University of California, Santa Barbara, California, United States
Aletha Solter earned a Doctor of Philosophy in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1975.
(The Aware Baby marks a major breakthrough in our understa...)
The Aware Baby marks a major breakthrough in our understanding of babies' needs from conception to two-and-a-half years of age. Now translated into eleven languages, it has contributed to a revolution in parenting around the world. This revised edition includes new research and insights from the author's extensive experience as a consultant and international workshop leader. This book will teach you how to bond with your infant, respond to your baby's crying, enhance your baby's intelligence, help your baby sleep better, find alternatives to punishment, and raise your child to be non-violent.
(Are you baffled by your baby's crying or your child's tan...)
Are you baffled by your baby's crying or your child's tantrums? Do you feel helpless, impatient, or angry? Do you struggle with conflicting advice? Tears and Tantrums will reassure you and help you stay connected to your child during these difficult moments. Now translated into ten languages, it describes a new way of responding to crying in children from birth to age eight. This respectful and revolutionary approach has many benefits, including helping babies sleep through the night, preventing discipline problems, increasing children's attention span, reducing aggression and hyperactivity, and helping children heal from trauma.
(In a nation where an estimated 25 percent of high-school ...)
In a nation where an estimated 25 percent of high-school seniors use illegal substances on a monthly basis, parents are wise to be concerned about setting their children on a drug-free course. While much advice handed out these days focuses on teen behavior and on what to do once drugs have become a problem in the home, Raising Drug-Free Kids takes an innovative approach and focuses instead on preventative measures that can be followed early on in a child's life. Developmental psychologist and parent educator Aletha Solter provides parents with simple, easy-to-use tools to build a solid foundation for children to say "no" to drugs. Organized by age group, from preschool through young adulthood, the handy 100 tips will show parents how to help their children to: Feel good about themselves without an artificial high. Cope with stress so they won't turn to drugs to relax. Respect their bodies so they will reject harmful substances. Have close family connections so they won't feel desperate to belong to a group. Take healthy risks (like outdoor adventures) so they won't need to take dangerous ones.
(Attachment Play will help you solve discipline problems w...)
Attachment Play will help you solve discipline problems with children from birth to age twelve without using punishments or rewards. It delves beneath the surface of typical conflicts by addressing the underlying emotions that can lead to challenging behavior. This playful and revolutionary approach to parenting will show you how to: gain cooperation while avoiding power struggles, decrease sibling rivalry and aggressive behavior, solve homework and bedtime problems, help your children overcome fears, strengthen your connection to your children, and bring joy and laughter into your home.
(Cooperative and Connected marks a major breakthrough in o...)
Cooperative and Connected marks a major breakthrough in our understanding of children's emotional needs from two to eight years of age. It is a revised and updated version of Helping Young Children Flourish, and it continues the same approach described in the author's first book, The Aware Baby. Of interest to parents as well as therapists and early childhood educators, it provides a complete description of respectful, non-punitive parenting. This revised edition contains new information, insights, summary charts, and up-to-date scientific references. The seven chapters are packed with information about child development and solutions to many common problems encountered by parents of young children.
Aletha Solter studied with the Swiss psychologist, Jean Piaget, at the University of Geneva, Switzerland, where she obtained a Master's degree in human biology in 1969. She then earned a Doctor of Philosophy in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1975.
Aletha Solter taught psychology at the University of California and conducted research for a few years. When her first child was born in 1977 (following a traumatic birth) she did not find any parenting books that advocated attachment-style parenting and non-punitive discipline while taking into account the impact of stress and trauma on children's development. The first book she wrote, The Aware Baby (first published in 1984, revised in 2001), is the one that she wished she had had as a new mother. The Aware Baby has sold over 150,000 copies worldwide. Its sequel, Cooperative and Connected (a 2018 revised edition of Helping Young Children Flourish), describes this same approach, covering the age range from two to eight years. Her three other books are Tears and Tantrums (1998), Raising Drug-Free Kids (2006), and Attachment Play (2013).
Solter's books have been translated into many languages, and she has also written workbooks to accompany her first two, as well as numerous articles for parents and professionals.
Solter offers consultations for parents who are familiar with her work. In 1990 she founded the Aware Parenting Institute, which now has certified instructors in 17 countries.
(Are you baffled by your baby's crying or your child's tan...)1998
(In a nation where an estimated 25 percent of high-school ...)2006
(Cooperative and Connected marks a major breakthrough in o...)2018
(Attachment Play will help you solve discipline problems w...)2013
(The Aware Baby marks a major breakthrough in our understa...)1984
Aletha Solter's goal is to help create a nonviolent world in which all children are allowed to attain their full potential. With the tools of Aware Parenting, she is confident that parents can raise their children to be competent, compassionate, nonviolent, and drug-free. She also knows that parenting is a difficult job and that parents deserve recognition, information, and support.
Solter's philosophy was developed, in part, during her studies in Geneva, where she had the privilege of studying for a time under the great Swiss psychologist of childhood, Jean Piaget. This personal philosophy views children’s crying as a natural healing mechanism which releases their emotions. Frustrating or scary experiences can cause crying, Solter says, as can bodily needs such as hunger or cold. All needs should be filled immediately but repression of crying caused by past stress or trauma may inhibit the self-healing release of stress and may teach the child that strong emotions are unacceptable. Healthy emotional release depends on parents’ lovingly holding, listening to, and making eye contact with the crying child - accepting its feelings, in short - rather than rejecting or punishing it for crying, and rather than distracting or artificially cheering up the child. Solter eschews both authoritarian and permissive approaches, opting instead for a sensible middle course, a democratic style of parenthood in which the parent aims to fill everyone’s needs and to strive for peaceful conflict resolution without relying on either rewards or punishments.
“It is ironic that our culture shields children from scenes of human love-making but ruthlessly expose them to scenes of human killings.”
“Fears are not logical and do not respond to logic or reason.”
Aletha Jauch married Kenneth M. Solter on July 10, 1971. They have two children: Nicholas and Sarah.